Today host Sheinelle Jones reveals she had a secret miscarriage, talks about grief over the loss


Today, show host Sheinelle Jones revealed that she secretly suffered a devastating miscarriage 12 years ago, while opening up about the ‘painful’ grief she felt after the loss ” traumatic ”.

Sheinelle, 43, has welcomed three children over the years with her husband, Uche Ojeh; together they have a son, 12-year-old Uche, and nine-year-old twins, Kayin and Clara.

But before her son was born, the TV personality said she had a heartbreaking miscarriage, which made her feel like her sadness “would never end.”

In a personal essay published by the Today show, Sheinelle opened up about the loss of her unborn baby, revealing her miscarriage occurred while attending a journalism conference – the on-air host recalling how she continued to work until one of her mentors finally gave her a break.

She said she was in great pain afterward, but only took a few days off – forcing herself to “put her grief aside” and “keep moving on”.

“I was a host in Philadelphia and I was pretty stressed out at the time,” she recalls. ‘I remember finding out that something was wrong [with the baby]; the doctor told me that the baby’s heart rate was weak. In response, I did what a lot of women do: I kept moving forward.

Today Show host Sheinelle Jones revealed she secretly miscarried 12 years ago, while opening up about the ‘painful’ grief she felt after the ‘traumatic’ loss

Sheinelle, 43, has welcomed three children over the years with her husband, Uche Ojeh.  Together they have a son, Uche, 12, and twins, Kayin and Clara, nine.

Sheinelle, 43, has welcomed three children over the years with her husband, Uche Ojeh. Together they have a son, Uche, 12, and twins, Kayin and Clara, nine.

Sheinelle (pictured while pregnant with her nine-year-old twins) said she felt her sadness 'would never end' over her miscarriage

Sheinelle (pictured while pregnant with her nine-year-old twins) said she felt her sadness ‘would never end’ over her miscarriage

“I was at a journalism conference and going from table to table, meeting people in the news industry, networking in my blazer and heels and feeling so sick. I miscarried while I was there.

“It took one of my mentors to say, ‘Sheinelle, go back to your hotel room and get some rest. It’s traumatic.

Afterward, Sheinelle recalled feeling “so sad” and said “nothing would make her feel better.”

“You are in mourning. I remember asking my girlfriend, “When is this sadness going to end?”

“I took a few days off, but it was the news – I had to get back to work. It was so painful, but I think you take the grief and put it somewhere as you go through life.

Now she has said that she is sharing her story in an effort to help other women who are going through the same thing.

She continued, “Soon after, I had my first son, who is now 12, and then my twins, who are now nine.

“I had no problem with these pregnancies, and today I can’t imagine my life being any different.

“But it wasn’t until the past two years that I even remembered how painful that experience had been.

It happened while she was attending a journalism conference, and Sheinelle said she kept working until one of her mentors gave her a break.

It happened while she was attending a journalism conference, and Sheinelle said she kept working until one of her mentors gave her a break.

She said she suffered so much

She said she suffered so much “pain” afterwards, but only took a few days off – forcing herself to “push back her grief” and “keep moving forward”

Now she said she

Now she said she “can’t imagine her life being any different” but is sharing her story in an effort to help other women who are going through the same thing.

“It’s amazing what the mind is going to do to move on with the grief. I had completely forgotten how dark those times were.

“Then I think of all the women who are still stuck in this place of grief, and I just want to help.”

She wants to encourage more people to talk about infertility issues so that women don’t have to “fight in silence”.

She is now preparing to release a documentary on fertility issues, titled Stories We Tell: The Fertility Secret, which airs Sunday.

“For so long I have listened to girlfriends talking about the infertility issues they face behind closed doors,” she added.

“I saw them struggle in silence. They advance in their careers, go to church, to the gymnasium – all while carrying this painful secret.

“As a society, we are doing ourselves a disservice by letting people silently navigate something so difficult.

“We need to talk about what women are really up to. I am not a doctor. I am not a researcher. But I am a journalist and I can tell stories.

Sheinelle’s Today co-host Dylan Dreyer previously revealed that she too had a miscarriage.

In 2019, Dylan admitted that she and her husband, Brian Fichera – who shared a son, named Calvin, at the time – had lost their baby.

She wants to encourage more people to talk about infertility issues so that women don't have to

She wants to encourage more people to talk about infertility issues so that women don’t have to “fight in silence”

Sheinelle's Today Show co-host Dylan Dreyer previously revealed she too had a miscarriage

Sheinelle’s Today Show co-host Dylan Dreyer previously revealed she too had a miscarriage

In 2019, Dylan revealed that she and her husband, Brian Fichera - who had a son, Calvin, at the time - had lost their baby.  She called the experience

In 2019, Dylan revealed that she and her husband, Brian Fichera – who had a son, Calvin, at the time – had lost their baby. She called the experience a “nightmare” and said she blamed herself.

Months later, the couple announced they were expecting another child together, and their second son, Oliver, was born in January 2020.

Months later, the couple announced they were expecting another child together, and their second son, Oliver, was born in January 2020.

She called the experience a “nightmare” and said she began to blame herself for the tragic loss.

“In news that came as sheer joy – we found out that I was pregnant a second time. It was a kind of ‘jump up and down, hug each other’ moment. We were so excited, ”she said.

“Then one morning, eight weeks later, as I was getting ready to work on Today, I realized I was bleeding like I had never done before.

“I was having a miscarriage. Going from that peak of finding out we were pregnant to that extreme low – right before I had to go to work – was like a nightmare come true.

“You doubt yourself. What did I do wrong? I thought about everything I had done in the last few weeks: did I walk too much? Have I exercised too much? Shouldn’t I have done this or that?

“I even thought of a time a few days earlier when my brother threw a snowball in my back. Irrational as it was, my mind ran with it: was it the snowball?

“Of course, it wasn’t the snowball or the exercise or the walk. But at this point, it is difficult to escape the self-blame. You just have that ultimate guilt.

Months later, the couple announced that they were expecting another child together, and their second son, Oliver, was born in January 2020.


Javier E. Swan